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INDONESIA HAS LOT OF THINGS EXCEPT....

This is called a rich country paradox...

Pasal 33 Ayat (3) UUD “Bumi dan air dan kekayaan alam yang terkandung di dalamnya dikuasai oleh negara dan dipergunakan untuk sebesar besarnya kemakmuran rakyat”.

Pasal 33 Ayat (3) UUD
"Earth and water and the natural resources contained therein are controlled by the state and used for the greatest prosperity of the people."

INDONESIA IS A RICH COUNTRY, CULTURAL HERITAGES, NATURAL RESOURCES, MINING, CREATIVE HUMAN RESOURCES

BUT WHY LOTS OF PEOPLE STILL LIVING IN POVERTY???

DIFFICULT TO LIVE PROPERLY, and HARD TO FIND JOBS??? 

DESPITE LOTS OF "LUXURY GIVEN" THINGS THAT INDONESIA HAS?!!

The further I came to knows my country better, the more I felt angry, sad, hurts, suck, annoys but i don't know where to channel this anger to?!

I sometimes think, where all the "benefits" of this rich country goes to so far? 

I THINK IF THERE IS NO CORRUPTION, COLUSION, NEPOTISM, GREEDY PEOPLE WHO HAVE POWER EXIST, MAYBE INDONESIA WILL BECOMES A SUPER POWER COUNTRY IN THE WORLD. 

God has given abundance gift to Indonesian, but the one who destroy it is the Indonesian itself (the small communities who only think about themselves and greedy about money/material things). 

Many country wants to have the richness (culture, nature, traditions) like Indonesia, Indonesian can still live in harmony despite diverse culture, traditions, ethnic inside, but there are some people who doesn't like to see this country grow harmoniously, so they are trying to "destroy" the unity of this country using ethnic/religion issues, narcotics, corruptions etc. 

I think the mandate of constitution is not really well implemented, especially the second phrase that said [......and used for the greatest prosperity of the people.] Pasal 33 Ayat (3) UUD

WHICH PEOPLE??!! WHERE'S ALL THE BENEFITS OF RICH COUNTRY GOES TO?!!

We have abundance natural resources, mining that already been taken and exploited for decades but whats the impact to Indonesian itself????????

DISASTER??!

In my adventures in the corner part of Indonesia, actually I just want to enjoy nature and avoid this kind of things, cuz seeing this facts always makes me angry, added with I can't do anything about this, it makes me more angry! 

But the more I explore the more I found lots of hurting facts like this, UNFORTUNATELY?!!

When I go to eastern part of INDONESIA, I sometimes can't believe that I'm in Indonesia because it is sooo beautiful?!! you name it/! nothing you cannot find in Indonesia?!

the largest gold mountains, nickel mining, sulfur, pearl, coal, water resources, humongous rain forest, gorgeous volcanos, thousand of beautiful beach, geothermal energy, fountains, islands, flora fauna, savana, desert, everything is in Indonesia!

Rattan, coffee, tea, vanilla, cloves, coconut, everything you can find easily, here?!! 

BUT WHY THE PEOPLE ARE STILL LIVING IN DIFFICULTIES?!!!

BECAUSE THE BENEFIT OF THIS RICHNESS ARE ONLY ENJOYED BY FEW PEOPLE WHO ARE GREEDY OF MONEY AND THINK ABOUT THEMSELVES?!!

Sometimes I felt like a guest in my own country, i'm shocked seeing the facts that lots of island in the eastern part of Indonesia is already owned by chinnese. however the local still living under poverty.

The "front" is Indonesia but the behind is not Indonesian anymore.

Later, if all the "richness" of the earth is finished, we will only harvest the disaster, and the one who will take is the locals who live nearby, while the investor will easily leave the place with abundance of moneys and living in prosperity abroad?!!

I'm writing this to channel my anger to the things that I cannot change at all, cuz it's been rooted in our nations, UNFORTUNATELY THIS GREAT NATIONS NEEDS TO DEAL WITH THIS KIND OF ANNNOYING STUFF?!

I DON'T CARE ABOUT POLITICS STUFF, WHAT I CARE IS THE FUTURE OF MY PEOPLE AND MY COUNTRY. 

GOD, PLEASE SAVE INDONESIA.

THE FACT OF INDONESIAN, HERE, HONEST PEOPLE ARE DESTROYED, GOOD PEOPLE ARE SHUNNED, WHILE BAD PEOPLE ARE PRAISED.

INDONESIA IS NOT LACK OF SMART PEOPLE, INSTEAD, THIS COUNTRY IS LACK OF GOOD, HONEST, AND GENEROUS PEOPLE.

WHEN I WAS ABROAD, I CAN SEE HOW GLOBAL PEOPLE CAN APPRECIATE AND SUPPORT INDONESIAN VERY WELL!! WAY BETTER THAN INDONESIAN ITSELF! #miris #sadtruth

TYPICAL OF INDONESIAN>>>

INDONESIAN WILL GIVE MORE SUPPORT TO NON INDONESIAN THAN INDONESIAN ITSELF, CUZ OF JEALOUSLY AND SELFISH SPIRIT, THIS WHAT MAKES INDONESIA CANNOT GROW AS DEVELOP COUNTRY FAST.

THAT'S WHY I FELT LIKE FOREIGNER CAN APPRECIATE INDONESIAN WAY BETTER THAN INDONESIAN ITSELF.

I IMAGINE IF ALL OF INDONESIAN CAN SUPPORT EACH OTHER, I'M SURE WE WILL GROW AS SUPER POWER COUNTRY IN THE WORLD.

NO WONDER THERE'S LOTS OF INDONESIAN CHOOSE TO LIVE ABROAD.

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WHEN A PERSON GETS SO MUCH WOUND....

You must have been hurt too many times

So you hate the things that you love

You must be used too much by other people, so it's hard for you to trust people

You must find it difficult because you have to stop living it even though you don't really hate it

Your heart must be very hurt.

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IF WE HOLD ON TOGETHER-DIANA ROSS

Don't lose your way

With each passing day
You've come so far
Don't throw it away
Live believing
Dreams are for weaving
Wonders are waiting to start
Live your story
Faith, hope and glory
Hold to the truth in your heart

If we hold on together
I know our dreams will never die
Dreams see us through to forever
Where clouds roll by
For you and I

Souls in the wind
Must learn how to mend
Seek out a star
Hold on to the end
Valley, mountain
There is a fountain
Washes our tears all away
Words are swaying
Someone is praying
Please let us come home to stay

If we hold on together
I know our dreams will never die
Dreams see us through to forever
Where clouds roll by
For you and I

When we are out there in the dark
We'll dream about the sun
In the dark, we'll feel the light
Warm our hearts, everyone

If we hold on together
I know our dreams will never die
Dreams see us through to forever
As high as souls can fly
The clouds roll by
For you and I

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FEEL LIKE A GUEST IN MY OWN COUNTRY

I see there's floods of foreigner are moving to Bali/Indonesia for now. Based on my observations I captured, there are pull and push factor why they decided to do so, the push factors are includes recession, inflation, conflict in their country, while the pull factors is very obvious! Because Bali/INDONESIA has lots of incredible things to offer, which makes everyone want to stay in Indonesia.

1. Uncomparable living cost /Very very affordable!

2. Amazing lifestyle

3. Great quality of life (lots of great natural landscape)

4. Diverse Communities

5. Warm, open, kind people

6. Easy access of assets and visas/ flexible regulation (money talk)

7. Dollar to Rupiah Values is huge (Moneys Talk)

8. Everything is "cheap", cheap labor, cheap home etc which I don't like cuz they value ID ppl so low

9. Wide land to build cheap home (foreigner version)

This is the paradox of rich country like Indonesia and Africa.

In my view, Indonesia and Africa has lots of similarity. Both are very rich country! but the value of our currency and human resources are very cheap compare with the other country in the world. In fact the quality is great!

In fact we are big country with abundant natural resources and culture, you know what?! the largest gold mountain in the world is in Africa/Joburg and Indonesia/Papua. 

But both only support USA(Papua's gold) and EUROPE(Africa's gold), Even Indonesia is the center of everything in ASIA. Without coal from Indonesia Singapore and Korea can light from the dark, without palm oil from Indonesia, several country in Asia can't afford cooking oil).

But what I found is despite those rich country, I only see local people only becomes security, housemaid, waitress, the one who should have the right and the impact of their abundance natural resources from their own country only becomes lower level worker in their own country, its not fair!!

I have hate and love relationship with my country, I love my people and this country so much but in other side I also hate those irresponsible people in power who only think about themselves and take advantages of others who don't have power to voice their suffering. 

Indonesia always welcome the expat well, even give the red carpet for them, but Indonesia cannot protect their own people who works abroad well, i.e TKI/TKW who works in Arab, Hongkong, Malaysia, lots of them get tortured and abused and come back home stress, pregnant even died, but what's the follow up??

The can't value their own people well, who is going to respect our own people if it's not coming from our people first??!! Don't destroy your own people, you have to help them.

Just like first president of Indonesia, Soeakarno said, in the future your enemy is not foreigner but your own people, because of the jealousy and selfishness. Indonesian fight for their own siblings for the sake of money. it's fucking real and it's happened in my beloved country who makes me angry, sad, and dissapointed?!

Why Indonesian value foreigner more than our own people?!!

In INDONESIA itself, nowadays there's a lots of foreigner moving to Indonesia for good, for the sake of their own importance, as local I didn't see lots of significant change/impact they made to the local economic except  less and less greeneries/rice paddy fields cuz more and more buildings for villas, club, bar, cafe, resto, noise polution from motorbikes and bar.

In my journey across East Indonesia, I see the very big contrast between the hype of prestigious tourism vs the life of local people who live nearby, like no impact at all?!!!

In fact, the hype of tourism should bring positive impact to local people surroundings.

OK let's say the tourist help to increase country devisa by paying visas to gov, but what's the direct impact to the society??? thus if there's corruptions happened in the upper level who have power to make policy, so society get nothing!

NOW YOU KNOW WHY? INDONESIA IS RICH, BUT THE SOCIETY STILL LIVE IN SUFFER, AND LOTS OF INDONESIAN WANTS LIVE ABROAD?! 

even LPDP scholars even said they want to go home after Indonesia becomes better. Because as Indonesian we know by ourself how bad the situation in our country is.

For foreigner who choose Indonesia as your new home, it is your right to live and travel everywhere, but please make your presence matter?! give positive impact to local people even tho it is just a little, help and care for them, as simple as buying local product, learn Indonesian language, mingle with local, eat with local, your little care can bring happiness for them and their economic better.

in the world where people are free to travel and live everywhere they wants, travelers have responsibility to respect the real culture and traditions of the places they choose to live in, don't use your wealth to take advantages of other poeple. Use it for good. I'm amazed how local people can survive from so much intrusion from materialistic tourist and tone-deaf romantic. Education and respect are keys.

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SINCERITY INDONESIA

I never seen a sincere smile like what I seen in the eastern corner of Indonesia. This facts makes me believe that, I still can find GOOD AND SINCERE PEOPLE IN INDONESIA.

Not all the people in this country is SICK, there are still many good people out there. 

When my sandal falls down in the sea, I asked for help to the strangers that passed by in front of me, without talking and thinking to much, he straightly went to his stereo foam boat go to the middle of the sea to take my sandals back. And when I tried to give him a tip as thank you, he reject it as he sincere do it, I'm about to cry , from here I believe there's still GOOD PEOPLE IN MY COUNTRY, INDONESIA.

When my motorbikes strike in the middle of the jungle without electricity, lots of strangers comes to help. Even though they don't have any cellphone but still do their best to help. I'm blessed and speechless.

When I get calamity after wrongly came to "mawar" local hotel which i thought that is the safe hotel. Because of that chaotic situation, i decide to rest for a while in Italian resto, the owner is Italian who married Indonesian. There there's two kind young women waitress approach me and offer help, even she offered me to stay in her "kosan" if i didn't get any homestay at that night. 

After listen to their stories, her works ended at 11 PM at night, and she still needs 2 hours to reach their kosan, plus she still needs to pass canyon, forest without enough electricity in between. THEY ARE SO BRAVE! I salute her gut, fights and bravery! it reminds me of the young Rara. 😁

I wish someday I can do something for my people who need help like this, AMEN.

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EAT.PRAY.LOVE

WHY INDONESIAN NOT REALLY INTO MONEY?! 😊😆

In my journey travel across INDONESIA, I ever met one of my foreigner friends who already live in Indonesia for the past 9 months. He said during his stays, he has seen lots of Indonesian local people are not really into money, not count anything with number, why is that so? 

I'm smiling hearing that kinds of feedback. but I'm grateful finally there's foreigner aware of that natural character of Indonesian. 

Indonesia is very rich of "everything", natural resources, human resources. culture and heritages, include WARM, WELCOME and KIND PEOPLE. If you lost in Indonesia, you will surely get help wholeheartedly.

Those are the strength and the weakness of Indonesian, as sometimes there's mean and sly people who only take advantages of our sincerity, kindness, faithfulness. "EXPLOIT" as many as possible! WHICH ALWAYS MAKE ME ANGRY?!!

I'll discuss about this particular topic later in other discussion. 

Now, let's answer what my foreigner friend questions.

Well, it depends on the people itself. There are good and bad people. There are ppl who care cuz they sincere really care, there are ppl who care cuz they only curious to know how far you go but don't really wants to help. 

for kind people.

FAITH

Because we have faith (no matter what religion are), but we believe about there's a greater power than ourselves who rules our life, there's life after death, we believe everything in this world is temporarily, and we must save the good deeds as much as possible in this world, with helping people, serving others so after we died, we can live happily and peacefully in heaven. So we put money way from the first level of our life hierarchy of needs.

ENOUGH AND ACCEPTANCE

The nature of Indonesian is have deep and great understanding about ENOUGH and ACCEPTANCE/SURRENDER. They are not materialistic and greedy.

ABUNDANCE NATURAL RESOURCES

Indonesia land is very rich of minerals, tropical country who sits in khatulistiwa lines which makes everythings planted in our land can grow easily, greatly with great flavours!

So as long as you are willing to grow your own food at farm, from farm to table, you won't get hunger!

for bad people.

Money is everything, they put money in the first level of their life hierarchy of needs. they will do everything anything for the sake of money, exploit everyone and getting advantages as much as possible for anyone they meet to gain benefit for themselves.

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THE SAD TRUTH IS YOU CAN'T HELP EVERYONE

THE MORE I KNOW THE REALITY IN THE FIELD, THE MORE MY BLOOD IS BOILING, I REALLY WANTS TO HELP ANYONE WHO ARE IN NEEDS, BUT MY CAPACITY YET NOT THERE YET FOR NOW.

I don't know about the statistic number of prosperity rate in Indonesia who comes into screen, what i know is the reality that I see in the field, in example in the prestigious world destination, there's lots of people who are in needs and in suffer in the middle of the luxurious brand of Indonesian tourism. I'm crying inside seeing this truth honestly, and the things that make me sad is I can't do anything about this for now. 

It makes me sad, angry and disappointed!!

I felt angry and disappointed seeing anyone who had opportunity to sit in legislative/executive seats but they only make rich of themselves, not really solve the society problem, not really fight for the nations, not really help Indonesia people, they only think about themselves, their own stomach, they only misuse their power for corruption, collusion and nepotism for their own importance. why they exist?? I wish they are dissapeared. Indonesia don't need people like them. Indonesia only need people WHO CARE, WHO WANT TO SERVE, TO HELP. Not to make rich of themselves.

But the sad truth is you can't help everyone, and you need to help yourself first before helping others. Help yourself first Rara!

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YOUR MONEY OR YOUR LIFE SUMMARY

Your Money or Your Life

If someone thrust a gun in your ribs and said that sentence, what would you do? Most of us would turn over our wallets. The threat works because we value our lives more than we value our money. Or do we?

Where’s all the life we supposedly made at work? For many of us, isn’t the truth closer to ‘making a dying’? Aren’t we killing ourselves — our health, our relationships, our sense of joy and wonder — for our jobs? We are sacrificing our lives for money — but it’s happening so slowly we barely notice. Eventually we may have all the comforts and even luxuries we could ever want, but inertia itself keeps us locked into the nine-to-five pattern.

Psychotherapist Douglas LaBier documents this ‘social dis-ease’ in his book Modern Madness.He found that focussing on money/position/success at the expense of personal fulfillment and meaning had led 60 percent of his sample of several hundred to suffer from depression, anxiety and other job-related disorders, including the ubiquitous ‘stress.’

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them — work, family, health, friends and spirit — and you’re keeping all of these in the air.

You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four balls — family, health, friends and spirit — are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same.
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.— Brian Dyson

your money or your life book by vicki robin and joe dominguez

IN MY PERSPECTIVE and EXPERIENCES.

People who are rich (born rich) are having more privilege than other people, why? because they have MORE CHOICE, whether they want to be successful or not whether they want to work or not, whether they want to do the right thing or not, they still living in PROSPERITY.

While for people who are coming from the middle low level, they don't have choice except FIGHTING for a better life, otherwise they cannot have a better life.

FIGHTING comes with the consequences, health, happiness, serenity, you might not get all of them at ONE.

SEEMS UNFAIR BUT IT'S LIFE. GOD WANTS TO CREATE BALANCE IN THIS WORLD.

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THOR: LOVE AND THUNDER WISDOM

 “Two warriors fighting the good fight for those who can't fight.” 

 “They are simply known as love and thunder!”. 

 "I'll Fight It My Way" - Jane Foster.

"Whatever Happens, Never Stop Fighting" - Elaine Foster

"Remember What I Told You: You Ever Feel Lost? Just Look Into The Eyes Of The People That You Love" - Peter Quill

"I Need To Figure Out Exactly Who I Am" - Thor Odinson

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RICH COUNTRY DILEMMA

Indonesia has lots of global selling point and competitive advantage. Which makes lots of investor happy to get Indonesia market? Why?

Because Indonesia people is too "open, kind and generous" and unfortunately very consumeristic. There's still lots of corruption, collusion and nepotism too, which makes every sly people loves it, to get the most benefit from Indonesian.

Indonesia had lots of "values" and potential inside, but the "price" is still cheap. Because people cannot appreciate and values what they have correctly. And unfortunately sometimes Indonesian itself cannot values and appreciate what they have properly, they prefer to respect everything comes outside Indonesia than what comes inside Indonesia itself.

I have hate and love relationship with my country. One side I'm blessed and proud to be Indonesian, this country is like heaven, very rich of cultures, natural resources and kind people. But in other side I'm deeply sad seeing this facts. The front  it looks Indonesia, but if you dig deeper, the real player is from China/Hongkong and other country outside Indonesia, it made Indonesian people itself looks like the guest in their own country.

1)Technology 

Data Center and Start up investor mostly from Hong Kong, China (Alibaba, Tencent). Data Center of ID company mostly are in HK or SG. And currently there's lots of tech company comes to ID market without having headquarter in ID. instead the HQ are in SG. 

Headquarter in SG, but their "largest" market/consumer in Indonesia. They pay taxes to SG gov, but get income from ID society and companies. So funny! 

Data is the new oil, And if talked about Data, Indonesia, China, India are the pioneer because they have lots of people, Indonesia itself 270M people, which more than half people are actively internet and cellphone user, can you imagine?!! our people's data stored in SG, HK, CH which surely they have their own government regulations.

2)Natural Resources

No country can beats the given rich natural resources of Indonesia, Indonesia had lots of amazing natural resources and potentials, the second largest gold mountain in papua freeport, lots of gold/nikel/coal/tin mountains in sulawesi, ntt etc 

Like what happened recently, nikel investor from china coming to exploit Indonesian nikel to create battery which used by tesla etc, but they bring their own employee from china, they don't even absorb local people to work there. but later if they finished with their exploitation and gone, the local people who suffer to get the disaster, flood, landslides, etc.

Indonesia gov invites foreign investor to come to Indonesia because they expect them to absorb local poeple, to open new workforce for Indonesian, give technology transfer to local talent but the fact is the opposite one, they only explore and exploit our natural resources and open workforce for chinese people itself! 

No one can beats Soekarno in protecting our natural resources. God I wish I can do something for this. 

3)Residence

If you come to the prestigious destination of Indonesia, you will feel like the guest in your own country. Because mostly the owner is not Indonesian anymore TT. Indonesian people just becomes low level worker. 

Islands, I'm suprised knowing the facts that small islands in the prestigious destination in Indonesia is already own by foreign people and not Indoensian anymore?! TT

How can they easily sell the island to other people?!!! 

it "looks like" we are still in Indonesia but the real "player/owner" is not Indonesian anymore. 

I'm really really sad seeing this facts honestly, added with I can't do so much for this, this makes me feel more sad, I wish I can do something for you, INDONESIA, I LOVE YOU!

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(HYPER) INDEPENDENCE WOMAN

Hyper-independence is the result of emotional damage from broken trust. Essentially, a person has had their heart broken several times and then, as an overcorrection, they decry all relationships and pretend they are perfectly fine on their own.

They become resentful of relationships and obsessed with their own independence, using it as a way to push away opportunities for love and connection. It is a painful, resigned, lonely position to be in.

When somebody says to you that they don’t need anybody and they “really value their independence,” what they’re really saying to you is: Even though I so desperately want to, I’m terrified to get close to somebody because I’ve been let down in the past.

Even the most independent, self-sufficient, relationship-phobic people you know desperately desire love and connection. Don’t believe them when they tell you otherwise. They want and need someone. So do I, so do you, so do we all. 

Of course, we didn’t choose to have our trust broken. We didn’t choose for someone to tear up our lives like a hurricane ripping through a city. But it is a choice to capitulate to our sadness and stay broken. It is a choice not to clean up the wreckage after the hurricane is gone.

Hyper-independence is a solvable problem. It doesn’t have to be a self-fulfilling prophecy of forever-aloneness. But it begins with honesty: it begins with the acknowledgement that although you have taught yourself how to be OK on your own, you don’t want to be just OK anymore. You want to thrive. And you don’t want to be alone anymore. In your heart, like everyone else, you want and need love. 

Take the leap of faith, for there is no other option. 

8 Signs of Hyper Independence

• You're a very private person. ...
• You're a workaholic/overachiever. ...
• You don't delegate tasks. ...
• You have a hard time asking for help. ...
• You're used to doing everything by yourself. ...
• You decide everything by yourself. ...
• You struggle with long-term relationships. ...
• You dislike needy people.

Yes, being independent is good. Being independent means you are strong and self-sufficient. But there’s nothing wrong with needing other people every once in a while. In fact, it’s only human! We all need love in our lives; we all crave companionship and affection; we all want to feel accepted, appreciated, and understood by other people. And no matter how hard we might try, we can’t do everything all on our own.

So while it may not be easy at first, we have to do our best to open up to those around us and allow ourselves to trust again, to ask for help when we need it. It’s scary to need someone or want them around, and even scarier to let ourselves love them, but having close, meaningful relationships with others is what makes life so worthwhile.

As the famous American lecturer and author Brene Brown once said, “Vulnerability is the only bridge we have to build connections with others.

Source.

https://www.thekeys.ai/blog/how-hyper-independence-will-ruin-your-dating-life#:~:text=Hyper%2Dindependence%20is%20the%20result,perfectly%20fine%20on%20their%20own.

https://psych2go.net/8-signs-of-hyper-independence/

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THE THINGS YOU CAN SEE ONLY WHEN YOU SLOW DOWN (PAUSE|DISTANCE|BOUNDARIES)

HIDUP PERLU DIBERIKAN JEDA DAN MOMEN UNTUK BERHENTI SEJENAK

SAMA HALNYA, SEPERTI MUSIK YANG INDAH, KARENA ADA JEDA DIANTARA NADANYA, BEGITU JUGA DENGA HIDUP YANG KAMU JALANI

 

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DIGITAL MINIMALIST|SABBATICAL LEAVE|FIRE

Digital Minimalist.

I've been declutter the use of social media for the past 3 years (FB, IG, Twitter) only LinkedIn remains, and the result is amazing!

I feel more peaceful and focused.

Sabbatical Leave

I decide to had Sabbatical Leave 

FIRE: Financial Independent, Retirement Early

Financial Independence, Retire Early (FIRE) is a movement of people devoted to a program of extreme savings and investment that aims to allow them to retire far earlier than traditional budgets and retirement plans would permit.

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them — work, family, health, friends and spirit — and you’re keeping all of these in the air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four balls — family, health, friends and spirit — are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same.
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.— Brian Dyson

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QUITE QUITTING VS HUSTLE CULTURE|THE GREAT RESIGNATION|FIRE

Since along time ago Silicon Valley Culture always impacts to Asia. People said Asia/ Indonesia becomes late adopter of technology/ tech culture which comes from USA. 

In fact Hustle culture, Quite Quitting culture already exist in Indonesia since long time ago.

In the purpose of survival, Indonesia people has lots of creative ways to survive and works so harder, so they can survive-Hustle culture.

Quite Quitting- Work as long as you receive salary, not really fully do their job for the sake of creating impact and values to people.

I as the bloody work hard person, I regrets to know this type of work just now, cuz I always put my work fully to really create impact and values to others, at least for people around me, but the fact is there's lots of people who already adopt this culture since long time ago, so they are not tired and burnt out. sometimes altruism can be a disease, too much empathy also not good. Take care of yourself first is more important than take care others.

I'm sorry Rara, I'm too hard for you so far. :(

Quite Quitting: seorang pekerja memutuskan berhenti bekerja terlalu ekstra dan mulai bekerja semampunya saja. Dalam kata lain, mereka menjadi jauh lebih santai dalam menjalani tugas sehari-hari.

https://kumparan.com/kumparanwoman/mengenal-quiet-quitting-tren-yang-sedang-viral-di-lingkungan-kerja-1yoPxBhvuyF/3

Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them — work, family, health, friends and spirit — and you’re keeping all of these in the air.
You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back.
But the other four balls — family, health, friends and spirit — are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same.
You must understand that and strive for balance in your life.— Brian Dyson

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LOST IN PARADISE

THE STORY  ABOUT FREEDOM, HAPPINESS, FULFILLMENT

In the end of the day is that the ”story“ is that really matters. Every story has values, because it COST lot of things in your life, pain-suffering-depression-dissapointment-setbacks etc.

 

In my journey, I met lots of new people with various background, age and experiences in life. Everything happened for a reason, I know God has brought me to meet them, and vice versa because of reasons, so I can “learn” from them and they can “teach” me something. 

 

Everyone has their own story from the experience they’ve been through. 

 

I met the old man in the beach, he loves adventures in lots of country since he is young, he had worked in very prestigious company in Europe before, but now he is living in a very very simple way, even you never expect that he ever work in prestigious company before. 

Don't judge a book from it's cover is very true!   Different like what most Indonesian did, who likes to show off the materials/visible things, richness, beauty, title/job etc lols, he dress very very simple!! even though he just wearing the T-Shirt but I think he is the richest man of the world because he rich with experiences, wisdom and perspective towards life and empathy towards others. 

Just like rice paddy, the more contained the more down is very very true and applicable for all aspects of life. In my view, every times I met people, I can differentiate between people who had lots of "contain" or not, usually the more contained people is with their life, the more humble wise and grounded they are, and usually the people who lack of contain, they tend to be arrogant and like to show off😂, in fact they show nothing! show off their own stupideness!😂

OK Let's go back to the European man. He shared his thought about life as below.

 

1.     In the end of the day it is the freedom, happiness and fulfillment that matters. When you so old, and almost reach the end point of your life (when your timing in the world ends), you won't seek anything except good health, serenity, freedom, happiness and fulfillment.

2.     Love and help yourself first then you can love and help others

3.     Always help people, cuz you never know his battle. You help others because you already get helped by others before, and you should pay it forward, Trust God, God sees everything, and God will help you when you are in need, through the hand of others. Do good and good will always come back to you, Karma

6.     Believe in magic and miracle in life, because each of us have invisible guardian angel that always guide and protect us

7.     Every people has their own way of living, respect that.

8.     Grounding, bare foot in the nature can absorb bad things/negative energy in life

9.     We are not what we think, our mind is not our friend, what’s inside is what matters most (intuition, gut feeling) is what matters most.

10.  Be grateful always everyday, say thank you for what you’ve got everyday

11.  Energy shines light, universe listen and bring it to the upper level 

12.  Before we come to this earth, each of us already know our family, mission, destiny, but once we born we forgot everything, and we come naturally to earth. That’s why here we are in the journey to find our purpose and meaning of life. 

13.  Never felt regrets and guilty for what already happened, because that what’s should be, instead said I could do either. Because each one of us always have a chance to do better. 

14.  God has LOVE, while human has WHY and HOW. LOVE has forgiveness, compassion and give a chance to be better. While HOW contains only the ego. 

Integrity

I’m amazed on how public bus driver works, they still do their work rightly (open the door in each station), commitedly and sincerily even though no one’s there waiting for the bus. 

 

Trust 

Backpacking taught me to trust the strangers. TRUST GOD and BELIEVE THAT LOVE IS EXIST, YES LOVE/Cinta Kasih. 

Fearless

Deal with of uncertain future, the sea, the dog and the monkey :D. Now I'm addicted of all of them ^^

Sincerity

Here I saw the most sincere smile which I never seen in Jakarta/Singapore or Surabaya. People here are very kind, loving and sincere.

Not all those who wanders are lost. You are not lost, You are here :)

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SINCERITY.

 I never meet sincere smile in Jakarta/Singapore/Surabaya like I found in this place.

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YOU ARE NOT LOST, YOU ARE HERE

Not all who wander are lost. 

In Bali foreigner cannot own a land/home, they only can rent it. Different with Bajo, there foreigner can easily own a land/home and even islands. Lols. 

 

Honestly I don’t want to continue to talk about Indonesian government stuff cuz it will only trigger my anger, so let’s talk about other stuff. 

 

So, how can thousands of foreigner come, live and own lands, home, café, resto, salon, hotel, resort, villa and other big things in Bali?

 

The answer is simple. It is because the “kindness”, “generousity” and the ”flexibility” of Indonesian itself, lols. 

So, usually they rent lands using local people’s name to build home, villa and business in Bali. 

The period of renting usually is for many years. Multiple dozen of years 

 

then the next questions is why local people still wants to rent their lands to foreigner, and why foreigners still wants to have it although they still need to return everything to the local people once the renting period ends?!

 

 The answer is because there is symbiosis mutualism inside.

 

Local people: Have passive income 

Foreigner: Have happy life in Bali with a very great quality of life, but cheap in price (for them :D)”. 

 

In Bali/Bajo foreigner can have a great food with $1, while abroad they get nothing with that same of price. $10 they already have a place to sleep, while $10 abroad might only get a bottle of water. Added with the great given nature that Bali/Bajo/Indonesia have, it is irreplaceable. The real Heaven of earth is Indonesia. 

 

PS. Indonesia became the most beautiful country in the world, 2022.

Indonesia has been named the most beautiful country in the world out of a list of 50 countries, based on an analysis conducted by a British site, money.co.uk, and released on 7th February.

Why?

because every 100,000 square kilometers of its territory there must be natural beauty such as mountains, volcanoes, coral reefs, tropical forests, and glaciers.

 

#proudtobeIndonesian 

 

So, you can imagine how great the quality of life here, right?

 

OK, so what’s the correlation of those stuff above with being present??

 

If you notice, the bule’s mindset of being present is very bold! 

 

They really put “being present” values practically in their life. They don’t mind just to rent the  lands from the local and return it back to the local owner although they already build a luxurious home/villas/hotel/biz on top of that. 

 

Because what they think is about NOW, HOW THEY CAN MAKE THEIR LIFE TO THE FULLEST NOW, HOW THEY CAN DO THEIR BEST NOW. They don’t worry too much about the future and don’t regrets too much about the past. So they don’t mind to “just rent” the land instead of “owned” it. As long as they have happy life for now, until the death comes.

 

Because life is mystery, no one knows what they will get in the future, even in one minutes later. No one never know how’s their life would be in the future. 

 

That’s why stop worry too much about the future and stop regrets your past, LEAVE(LIVE) IT HERE, ENJOY YOUR PRESENT, BEING FULLY PRESENT. 

 

Because what has happened in the past, that’s what it should be. Nothings to regret on.

And no one knows about the future, so don’t worry too much about it. 

 

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ALTRUISME; SANDWICH GENERATION; SANDWICH PATTY

 TOO MUCH ALTRUISM AND EMPATHY will bring more harm than good. 

 

Altruism Is the principle and moral practice of concern for happiness of other human beings or others animals, resulting in a quality of life both material and spiritual.

 

Altruism is good, but if it too much, then it will bring more harm than good. I see altruism and empathy is similar, empathy is good but if it too much, it is also not good for us. 

 

Altruism and Empathy has become my fundamental core values for long time, but at the same time it is also becomes my biggest enemy in life. 

 

As I always prioritize others than myself which made me became too hard to myself, forgot about my own life, self, and happiness.

 

And maybe this is become the root cause why I always feel tired at home and at office. 

 

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I'M WHO HAVE LOTS OF WOUNDS-Lulux Rofiatul Faidah

 "Turns your wounds into wisdom", Oprah Winfrey

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LOVING AND FORGIVING YOURSELF-Erin Cahyaning

 

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MAKE A PEACE WITH YOURSELF-Claudia Sabrina

 

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